Self-loathing: How to stop hating yourself

If you can’t manage your self-loathing, you’ll never become a better person! Almost everyone shows self-loathing i.e. feeling of unworthiness.

Ever struggled and embattled your own life? Saying to yourself: I ought to look better than this. I don’t deserve to exist. I’m so lousy. Oh! I’m such a loser. I’ve never done anything right for once. If you can’t kill this feeling, then it’s time to manage it.

Self-loathing is a toxic pattern of thinking where you believe you’re unlovable, incompetent, and unsuccessful, and worthless. You undermine yourself with thoughts of inferiority. Self-loathing transforms to anger, opens door to other mental health disorders.

Having a low opinion of yourself is not ‘modesty.’ It’s self-destruction. Holding your uniqueness in high regard is not ‘egotism.’ It’s a necessary precondition to happiness and success.” ― Bobbe Sommer

On the other hand, some studies found out that self-loathing could also be used for motivation i.e. self-loathing leads you to your max potential. It signals to you that very thing in your life, that makes you unhappy; so you need to dig it out and conquer it. But, only few admit this.

In his own view and as written in the book, ‘Compassion and Self Hate‘ Theodore Isaac Rubin, MD and Psychoanalyst says “in order to be compassionate to others, we must learn to be compassionate to ourselves,” i.e. you have to accept your real self.