Click To Tweet<\/a><\/p>\n Self-loathing<\/strong> is a toxic pattern of thinking where you believe you’re unlovable, incompetent, and unsuccessful, and worthless. You undermine yourself with thoughts of inferiority. Self-loathing transforms to anger, opens door to other mental health disorders<\/a>.<\/p>\n Having a low opinion of yourself is not ‘modesty.’ It’s self-destruction. Holding your uniqueness in high regard is not ‘egotism.’ It’s a necessary precondition to happiness and success.\u201d \u2015 Bobbe Sommer<\/p><\/blockquote>\n On the other hand, some studies found out that self-loathing could also be used for\u00a0motivation <\/a>i.e. self-loathing leads\u00a0you to your max potential. It\u00a0signals to you that\u00a0very thing in your life, that makes you unhappy; so you need to dig it out and conquer it. But, only few admit this.<\/p>\n In his own view and as written in the book, ‘Compassion and Self Hate<\/a>‘<\/strong> Theodore Isaac Rubin, MD and Psychoanalyst says “in order to be compassionate to others, we must learn to be compassionate to ourselves,” i.e. you have to accept your real self. Followings are ways to manage\u00a0and\u00a0get past this shame.<\/p>\n You need to device some tools of self-love to to shift your point\u00a0of awareness, when the pattern of self-hate starts running through your mind i.e. echoing to you what you’ve done wrong. Tools like talking back \/ affirmations e.g. ‘I’m unique, wonderful and heading to greater heights.’\u00a0You can as well do something new at the very launch time of the pattern i.e. listening to music that touches your heart or going for a quick walk.<\/p>\n Wonder why you keep comparing yourself negatively to others around you. STOP! You are second to no one. Stop tagging yourself inferior to others, but wholeheartedly embrace your natural way of being.<\/p>\n Read also:\u00a0Why Ostracism Hurts<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n “People with low self-esteem, are\u00a0stuck with hostile, life-denying, continuously critical and attacking entities that they carry in their heads and they believe,” describes\u00a0Anneli Rufus, the author of\u00a0Unworthy: How to Stop Hating Yourself<\/a> A study also found out that Self-hatred and self-love are two balancing elements. So, if you can’t easily reduce self-loathing, you can easily achieve self-love. All you have to do is to treat yourself as you would a small child, list the positive things about yourself, and visit them as daily routine.<\/p>\n
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Interrupt the Pattern<\/h3>\n
Quit Comparison<\/h3>\n
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