the elder ones to figure out what to do and as well having the opportunity to practice and pass knowledge unto the younger ones. Unlike other siblings who are bestowed with only one role.
The skilled negotiator
As a middle child, you are automatically the Go-Between. A popular study once noted that the middles are always the underdogs who value fairness. According to Katrin Schumann, author of The Secret Power of Middle Children: because they don’t tend to get their own way, they make use of their skills of manipulation and negotiation to get what they want.
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However, it is observed that middles are skilled mediators and negotiators. Being surrounded by both older and younger siblings, the middles then opt for ways to gain attention in the family by carving out for themselves a niche to at least show their worth in the family.
“The negotiator role is one they typically have to take up to get what they need in competition with the needs and desires of favored firsts and pampered lasts,” says Salmon, a professor of psychology and coauthor of ‘The Secret Power of Middle Children.’
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Note that those conflict-resolution skills birthed by them as discussed above will perfectly be applicable to any relationship. The middles are always driven by justice than any other things, especially when the need comes for who to take the blame. A 2010 literature found that, being a middle child can be linked to ability to be faithful in monogamous relationships.
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Pressure is off
The parents are always demanding the best from the firstborns, not minding what they pass through, thus subjecting the subject to tasks regardless of how huge it is. Study says the pressure to live up to parents’ expectations makes them easily depressed than other children. On the other hand, middle child will always be exempted from such pressure i.e. less likely to feel bad if they encounter any disappointment.
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“Being the middle has given me the chance to learn things on my own and learn from not only my own mistakes but my older brothers’ [mistakes]. And having that less pressure made it easier when I did not succeed,” said John, 26, from San Francisco, while having a chat with Mic.
