Whether they end abruptly with tears or last for long; relationships all teach us and others, life lesson orchestrated by our actions and inactions.
Learning from people’s mistake, knowing what works for others, abiding by the dos’ and donts’ and having much knowledge of what relationship is all about are major steps toward nurturing and the eventual securing of a glorious relationship. This article contains some worth-reading words of wisdom gotten from notable source (Greatist), and as gathered from renown relationship experts, to help you secure a long-lasting relationship.
Look for someone with similar values.
“For long-lasting love, the more similarity (e.g., age, education, values, personality, hobbies), the better. Partners should be especially sure that their values match before getting into marriage. Although other differences can be accommodated and tolerated, a difference in values is particularly problematic if the goal is long-lasting love. Another secret for a long marriage: Both partners need to commit to making it work, no matter what. The only thing that can break up a relationship are the partners themselves,” says Kelly Campbell, Ph.D., psychology professor at California State University, San Bernardino.
Stop being each other’s “everything.”
“‘You are my everything’ is a lousy pop-song lyric and an even worse relationship plan. No one can be ‘everything’ to anyone. Create relationships outside The Relationship, or The Relationship isn’t going to work anymore.” — Matt Lundquist, LCSW, couples therapist.
Never take your partner for granted.
“This may sound obvious, but you can’t imagine how many people come to couples therapy too late, when their partner is done with a relationship and wants to end it. It is very important to realize that everyone potentially has a breaking point, and if their needs are not met or they don’t feel seen by the other, they will more than likely find it somewhere else. Many people assume that just because they are OK without things they want so is their partner. ‘No relationship is perfect’ shouldn’t be used as a rationalization for complacency.” — Irina Firstein, LCSW, individual and couples therapist.