Seize their reward.
The only thing that makes passive-aggressive people wanting to do more, is your regular response. And that is where their reward lies. Instead of giving them chance; cut short their expectations, by simply controlling your emotions while staying calm and keeping your replies simple. “The less reactive you are, the less fuel they have for their passive-aggression,” says Oberlin.
Confront and be Assertive
With calmness and while having your emotions checked, approach the passive-aggressive person and let the person know you totally dislike their action and state the consequences the person stand to get if the scenario repeat itself. Though, it will be hard to get passive-aggressive person to feel sorry for an action, but, you can achieve this while taking the fellow in consideration too. Don’t be harsh!
According to Wetzler, let the passive-aggressive person know the exact word or action that made you so angry, and never flash back to previous ones which would only make total mess of your move.
- Preston Ni, M.S.B.A.: How to Successfully Handle Passive-Aggressive People – 2014 Preston C.
- Monica A. Frank, Ph.D.: CRAZY-MAKERS: PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE PEOPLE (page 5) – Excel At Life, LLC.