Being happy with Oneself.
Confidence sets in, when a man genuinely accept himself and is happy with his own image.
the best way to achieve confidence is being happy with yourself and then just be yourself, added Xenos.
It requires self analysis, changing oneself by fixing the issues under one’s control and accepting the things one can’t easily change.
Willingness to defy.
Self-confidence, for me, is someone who is willing to defy me, says Nathaniel Elder, another quora contributor.
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I’m not saying that they say “no” to me all the time. But assuming we’re in a good relationship, the ability to say “no” shows to me that that person has great self-confidence, because they aren’t seeking my validation at that moment.
According to him, one who does that shows great independent spirit. Because, it takes a lot more effort to say no to someone you’re on good terms with.
More insightful mentions on Quora:
- When you don’t bully those weaker than you and aren’t intimidated by those stronger than you.
- When you earn money, but without compromising on your morals.
- Looking someone in the eye when talking. Without fear.
- Hold the door open for women without fearing looking stupid.
- Willingness to make mistakes.
- Being firm on your point but even considering other’s point of view.
Is any of these NON-PROFESSIONAL OPINIONS in any way against your definition of a confident man? Please, let’s know your thoughts via the comment section.
FURTHER READINGS Shakti Lamba, et al: Self-Deceived Individuals Are Better at Deceiving Others. http://dx.doi.org/10.1371/journal.pone.0104562 Christian A. Vaccaro, et al; Managing Emotional Manhood: Fighting and Fostering Fear in Mixed Martial Arts Danu Anthony Stinson, et al: Rewriting the Self-Fulfilling Prophecy of Social Rejection - published in Psychological science Pablo Briñol, et al: Body posture effects on self-evaluation: A self-validation approach. Published on 25 Feb, 2009 on European Journal of Social Psychology